Okay, another week has gone by and this empty nest thing is not going away, but it is getting a little easier. I definitely still don’t like the overwhelming quiet that pervades the house, but there are some benefits.
The house stays cleaner, neater and tidier, there is less laundry to do and don’t even get me started on the beautiful state the bathrooms stay in. How come I have 3 children but there always seems to be 9 dirty towels in the the bathroom?
Our food bill at the supermarket has gone down. This is relative in that I try not to think about the enormous amount we paid for a meal plan at their universities. To be honest I will take every penny I can save along the way. We had a coupon for our local supermarket and we had to spend $140 to reap the benefits and just couldn’t spend that much, oh how times have changed. That is another benefit, we can eat what and when we like!
The positive and negatives aside what I am really feeling is that most things in life are not all good or all bad. The key is to just live in that moment, experiencing it, feeling it, living it. Yoga says you can only control your reaction. So when the empty nest sneaks up on you, and it really does, how are you going to react? First I cried, then I did a yoga and meditation practice, then I blogged. For me these were all things that help me process this life changing event. The yoga and meditation keep me grounded and help me maintain my yogic steady state even when I miss my children.
In fact the process helped me realize it’s not all negative, this is an opportunity to open a new chapter for my husband and me. A time to reconnect and discover our own hopes and dreams not just what we want for our children. Now after 5 weeks I can look forward to parents weekend and going to see my daughter, hopefully I won’t cry when we leave this time. Even if I cry I know that I’m okay with returning to the empty nest. I’m living in the moment, in this new chapter I may not love it, but I don’t hate it.